Wednesday’s Parent: Parenting the superstar and the struggler

Many paths lead to success Photo by Wendy David-Gaines

Many paths lead to success Photo by Wendy David-Gaines

The college-bound often place the schools they are considering in one of three categories based on college admission requirements and student qualifications. Reach schools are those where student qualifications don’t fulfill college requirements but the student really wants to attend. Match or target schools are those where student qualifications meet college requirements. Safety schools are those where student qualifications exceed college requirements.

College choices may force a reevaluation of how parents and students view their current position as superstar, struggler or squished somewhere in between. For example, a school valedictorian may fall short compared with other applicants for admission at an elite college. Or an average student may be a catch for a college with lower selective criteria. Or a struggler may find himself on a par with other students on campus.

The college process can shake up perceptions and turn self-images upside down. Parents may prepare their students for the future with these five tips:

Recognize accomplishments Self-confidence in one’s abilities starts with recognizing the capability for achievement. Low self-esteem is the enemy here that will erode a student’s desire to try.

Praise the effort Not all hard work achieves the goal but many will say it is the failures that lead to future success. The key is finding reward in the journey as well as in accomplishment.

Provide opportunities Some things come easy and some things are more challenging. Which is which differs according to one’s talents, skills and abilities and therefore some activities are more likely to lead to positive outcomes. Look strategically for ways to increase chances for success and strengthen weaknesses.

Have options There are always obstacles to goal achievement but there are also many yellow brick paths to success. Expectations are most helpful when mingled with other choices to adjust and prepare should Plan B or C be necessary.

Keep smiling A positive attitude accepts new challenges as opportunities. Most importantly, it puts setbacks into perspective and uses breakthroughs as motivation.

Read Suzanne’s postTwo Kids; Two Academic Styles

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Wednesday’s child may be full of woe but Wednesday’s Parent can substitute action for anxiety. Each Wednesday Suzanne Shaffer and I will provide parent tips to get and keep your student on the college track. It’s never too late or too early to start!

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